Giving your man the pleasure he deserves

No, they don’t just want to thrust! Men crave lots of pre-sex teasing and tantalising too. It may take little more than a grope to prep your man for sex, but get this: If you spend time engaging in preplay, you’ll pave the way for more pleasure than ever. “When a man is turned on before sex in the right way, it not only feels good, but his body is also more receptive and his orgasm more intense,” says sex expert Gloria Brame, PhD. Here, five foreplay-for-him mavoeuvre that’ll tantalise your guy.


Let him view your body
It’s already the hottest gift for your man. Let him really soak up the sight and he’ll sizzle to an even higher temperature. “Men’s brain chemistry changes when they’re presented with a sexy image,” says Brame, “so flaunting your body will make his desire climb.”

He’ll be absolutely aching for your touch by the time you finally press your body against his.

Take it from Kyle,* 22. “My girlfriend stripped and sat me down in front of a big mirror. Then she said: ‘Hands off’ and began to undress me,” he recalls. “Watching her — but not being able to have her—was torture... in a good way.” Let him look, but don’t let him touch. That anticipation is a powerful tool.

Use your breath
Relax, you can leave the tantric breathing to sting. But there’s something to be said for using your mouth to work up your man. Start by letting your parted lips linger somewhere on his body, like his stomach or chest, then slowly exhale. “The rush of hot air will create a temperature change in his skin and heighten arousal,” says Cadell.

“My girlfriend does this thing where she takes a long, wet lick up my neck, followed by a warm breath,” says Christopher, 29. “Or sometimes she’ll go really fast, alternating between licking and cool blowing on my nipples. It’s like a stimulation bonanza.”

Now, a couple of heated rounds like this and your guy will want to go for the gusto. So, to reel him back: Work your way south to his package, pucker up, and blast a circle of cool air around his penis, as if you were putting out the candles on a cake. “Breathing cool air on a hot region will actually make his arousal last longer,” says Cadell.

Play a little rough
When it comes to foreplay, most women crave a slow seduction. But guys often like the more forceful approach. “Men get turned on when women get a little animalistic and make maximum pleasure the goal. They take it as a sign of lust and an indication that she’s as into it as he is,” says Brame. To him, playing rough isn’t about bondage necessarily. “Guys just want a woman who can take the reins,” says Brame.

So seize carnal control with a gotta-have- him-now lip-lock. Nathan, 31, says his fiancée, Sally, has that smooch nailed. “She’ll take my tongue in her mouth and really suck on it,” he says. “I swear a rush shoots right to my groin.” Next, make him putty in your hands by physically moving him into different positions, scratching your nails down his back, and being ballsy when he tries to take over. For instance, if he makes a move to give you some down-there pleasure, pull him up, flip him over on his back, and let him be on the receiving end. Trust us, he won’t have a problem with this kind of authority.

Tantalise with touch
Guys are surprisingly touchy between the sheets, and we’re not just talking about how he measures up to your ex. “Men desire a variety of hands-on stimulation techniques,” says Brame. And guess what, it’s not where you think. Instead of heading straight for his package, mix up your sexual touches — think: hard massage, long nail strokes, surprise pinches — all over his body to pique his pleasure.

That’s what Jess, 29, found out. “I thought the only place Jason was interested in being touched was between his legs, but when I pinned him down and started kneading his butt checks and sucking on his earlobes, he went wild,” she says. Jess has the right idea, according to Cadell.

“These contrasting caresses electrify the nerve endings in his skin, and the surprise factor helps rev him up even more,” she says.
Bring him to the brink
And now for the frisky finale: Pull out the start–stop trick. “By teasing your guy mercilessly and bringing him dangerously close to climax repeatedly, you will ultimately intensify his orgasm,” says Brame.

To kick off his preorgasmic frenzy: “Draw a circle around his genital region with your lips,” says Brame. “The whole area from his upper thigh to lower belly is sensitive, and the teasing proximity of your mouth will excite him but still allow him to hold back his climax.”

Then read his body language to determine when he’s close to combusting and ease off. “When his body tenses up, you know he’s right there,” says Brame. If you don’t want him to climax yet, move your focus to another lusty location. And when you’re ready to finish him off... well, you’ve got it from here, right?

source, tribune.com.ng